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You see, the problem is that I can't tell if that's just who he is, or if he's actually interested. He's a really charming guy by nature, but he's also really guarded, so I can't read him, and I'm really good at reading people so it's mildly disconcerting because I can't anticipate anything. So then when I'm actually hit by one of his comments it kind of flies over my head and I laugh like some stupid school girl and forget to reply with something equally as flirty.

Like, if he were a more...outgoing type of guy, I'd definitely be texting him all the time and we could flirt like normal people. Unfortunately he's very distant, he cares...I think, but its like he doesn't try to get close. However outside of the brief interactions we have in school he becomes non-existent. I just got out of a relationship with someone who was painfully inattentive to my existence in the latter part of our relationship so I'd rather not go through that again. It makes me hesitant to this entire thing, so I don't bother to text him because it makes me feel like I'm impeding in his life and I don't like that feeling of being some sort of annoyance. I have texted him in the past being friendly, asking him how things are going, or about things in class just so I can talk to him, but his replies seem emotionless or come hours later so I feel like he's always busy and I don't want to bother him.

Apparently he did this 180 flip from high school to university, as he used to be this party boy who transformed over the summer into this intelligent, charming, satirical guy. (I didn't know him before university though) I like all sides of him though, but I'm also unsure if I'm ready for a relationship yet, because I definitely still have feelings for my old boyfriend. If he were to step up his game or whatever and flat out tell me that he likes me, instead of this elusive stuff, I'd go out with him in a heartbeat. He calls me by my full name, unlike a bunch of everyone else who calls me Sam or Sammy and I melt. I melt. He's everything I'd want in a guy....except he doesn't like children...though I'd balance that out with my love of children and my overall sunshine-y personality.

Which leads to paragraph number 4, I'm feeling extremely vulnerable because I would do almost anything for him, within reason of course, but it's fairly scary. If he goes to class early and tells me that I should come to class early, I'll do it. If he tells me to take a class with him, I'll do it. If he's going to the library to get books, and I don't need any books, I'll go with him. If he wants to go out for lunch, and I ate not too long ago, I'll go with him. If he tells me he wants to go to something anywhere in town, I'll go with him. I've always been a fairly independent person, even with my boyfriends, but he has this control over me that he doesn't even know he has, which is mildly frightening, though at the same time I want him to use it and make me his.

Wow. That was actually good to get off of my chest. Good thread is good. I could never tell this to anyone up here in Canadia Land who could possibly know him.

well guess what.

I know him

And I am so telling

Just tell him.

I'm the woman, don't societal constructs forbid me from making the first move?

Anyways, I've flirted with him before at first, so if he didn't make a move why bother?

Haha not at all, sometimes you have to give a little push. Just make sure he's not dating anyone, because that's always embarassing :p.

To be honest, from what I've read it sounds like you're the same way when talking to people; when he flirts you can't think/don't notice in time to reply with a flirty answer (If I read correctly). Perhaps, when you flirt he's the same way you are.

the coolest girls take the initiative when they want a thing

You should probably just tell him. It may be socially normal for a guy to make the first move nowadays, but who cares? Why should what other people think about who initiates a relationship make any difference? From what you tell me, I'm going to make the assumption that he's probably insecure with his new self and doesn't have enough confidence with how he is now to make a move. That, or he may just not be interested in a relationship at the moment, so he's missing anyone flirting that happens to come his way.

On another note I think you need to take a step back because what you're describing with the way you feel would not lead to any sort of healthy relationship.

Also, I agree with this completely.

Oh also I'd recommend finding someone who you could actually talk to about that kind of stuff.

and you know in person lmao

No, she doesn't need to even know them in person. Just someone who's opinion she can trust and she know won't go around and tell people things that they don't need to know.

lol I'm not looking for advice. I just needed to blarrhghghghgagh that all out of my system.

edit: though what Belth says is true. While I'm in this state, I honestly don't think I'm ready to be in a relationship again. Maybe not for a while. I think I'd like to just spend this year being single.

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